These really aren’t ‘tricks.’… In order for any of this stuff to work…you have to have a strong relationship with the kids you’re trying to use these on.
In Episode 22, Maria Horner shares some of the important lessons she’s learned as a mom and now passes along to her summer staff each year during counselor training at Catalina Island Camps.
“You know, those “Jedi Mom Tricks” that you do to control my mind without ever yelling or getting mad.”
Jedi Mom Trick #1: The Look & The Look with Head Tilt
Jedi Mom Trick #2: Give Choices (that are both acceptable)
Jedi Mom Trick #3: Clearly Communicate the Rules
Jedi Mom Trick #4: Ask Questions
I asked Maria to share some of her favorite parenting resources, and this is what she had to say:
Here are a couple of books that are a little “off the beaten track”:
Good Influence: Teaching the Wisdom of Adulthood, by Daniel Heischman. He’s the executive director of the National Association of Episcopal Schools. I read his book when Nick was in middle school and was struck but his premise that we should be raising our kids to be good instead of raising them to be happy….because while there are plenty of happy people who are NOT good, almost all really good people are also happy.
My Monastery is a Minivan, by Denise Roy. Hysterical.
The Blessings of a Skinned Knee, and LOVED Blessings of a B-, by Wendy Mogel
Note: I’m going to stop using my super powerful microphone that is picking up all kinds of background noises of my papers, notes, etc. Sorry for the distracting background noises in this episode.