10 Fun Ways Teachers Can Help Kids Connect with Other Kids
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My oldest daughter started her first teaching job about a month ago. She’s teaching high school English to 9th and 10th graders. Less than a month into school, she has students who come hang out in her classroom during morning break, lunch, and after school. She’s been told by several students that she’s their favorite teacher. One student said, “I like how you make everyone behave.”
She has some typically low-performing students responding positively to her and has been asked by other, more experienced teachers what she’s doing.
I know exactly what she’s doing.
While she’s new to teaching, she’s become a master at connecting with kids and forming relationships with them through her years working at camps, My Gym, and other settings. She understands that before she can teach her students, she needs to connect with them and help them connect with each other.
Part of the “magic” of camp is that from the first moment, we focus on building relationships and getting our cabin groups connected. We train our counselors to help kids develop social skills so they can form friendships and feel a bond with their peers.
The minute kids arrive at camp (or get on the bus to go to camp), counselors help them get to know each other. Friendships form quickly and kids feel comfortable together. With this comfort level, kids are then open to challenging themselves and taking risks in front of each other. And that’s when they grow. The connections create an environment where kids can learn the social and recreational skills camp offers.
With five kids of my own having started numerous classes, sports, and clubs over the years, I’m amazed at how the majority of the time, the teacher, coach, or leader just jumps straight into the content. Teachers go over the syllabus, coaches start a drill, club leaders launch into rules. By skipping over the connection piece, the kids are left, most likely, feeling more concerned about who their friends are going to be than what’s going on in the class, team, or club.
When I have seen this with my own children, I have sat back on the sidelines wondering, “Can you at least have the kids introduce themselves, so they know who they’re passing the ball to?” But I have never wanted to be THAT obnoxious parent who’s always back-seat coaching, so I kept quiet.
In the classroom or on the field, no one feels comfortable raising their hand and asking what may be a “stupid” question unless they feel happy and accepted; until they do, kids won’t really get all they need from the experience.
For any teachers who are reading this—thank you, by the way; I know you’re super busy right now!—you have an amazing opportunity to do more than just teach your students this year. You can create an amazing, connected community in your classroom that positively impacts your students’ lives in ways far beyond their academic learning. By spending just a few minutes on some things outside the “Common Core”—but so very important in life—you can create your own summer camp magic in your classroom.
I’ve heard from MANY former camp counselors turned teachers that the team and relationship-building activities they learned at camp have been extremely useful in their classrooms. Just like I believe all parents should at least go through camp counselor training, I wish all teachers could spend a summer as a camp counselor.
In just a few minutes, teachers and coaches can help kids feel more comfortable, experience being part of a community, and be more open to learning and collaborating with each other.
Try one or more of these 10 activities and see how your class transforms into a happy, connected place!
#1 Human Bingo
One camp favorite get-to-know-you game is Human Bingo. Create a Bingo-style sheet and give kids five or ten minutes to talk to each other, get a name to fill in for a box, and eventually get “Bingo.” This site has a template you can download and use to put your own categories on it. This is a low stress, non-embarrassing game. Have some small, fun prizes for different Bingo categories (line, blackout, etc.)
I haven’t tried this (since we don’t have white boards at camp), but I think it’s a great idea in a classroom. Come up with a fun topic or question each day, then have each student write their answer on a sticky note and put it on the board. You can share some, have kids guess who answered what, etc. I’ve seen so many great pictures on Pinterest of fun questions you can ask and topics kids can respond to. Here are some examples:
- Throw it away Thursday: If you could only keep one thing, and had to throw away all the rest of your possessions, what would you keep?
- Fri-YAY: Why are you glad it’s Friday?
- Describe what makes you a great friend
You get the idea! Search “sticky note questions on a white board” on Pinterest and you will get TONS of fun ideas!
#3 Five Things
We often play this at our first campfires. Since it requires yelling and participation, it captures kids’ attention. Especially with an older group, I’d get some class leaders to demonstrate before playing so that you get “buy in.” For the first play through, have five specific things written on the board. For example–your name, your favorite food, favorite book or movie, favorite subject, and favorite animal. Everyone chants “Five things, five things, five things, five things, FIVE THINGS!” When the person says the first thing, everyone chants, “ONE!” After the second thing, “TWO!” etc. After the five things, the Five Things chant is repeated and you go on to the next person. Once your class learns this game, you can use it for other categories, things they’ve learned, stuff they did over vacation, etc. Even if they’re skeptical at first, I promise they’ll end up enjoying it. Like I said, get a few key kids to learn it and demonstrate! I think it could be really fun!
Kids love to throw stuff, so why not have them get something out of it? You can use a “Snowball Fight” in your classroom as a get-to-know you activity or as a review for something they’ve learned. For a get-to-know you game, have each student write their name and three things about themselves. Once everyone’s ready, have them crush their paper into a “snowball.” Have the “fight” (throwing the papers around the room at each other) for 30-45 seconds, then have each student pick up the closest “snowball,” find the person who wrote it, and meet them! As a way of connecting throughout the year, kids can write a question on their snowball, throw them around, and answer the question they end up with.
This is a great listening activity that I think could be used for getting to know each other AND for reviewing something you’re learning in class. Kids are paired up and each person has one minute to talk while the other person listens. The listener recaps what the person said. Then they switch.
This is the older kid equivalent of “Star of the Week.” Once kids know each other, have a person once a week who’s in the “Spotlight.” Other students can compliment him or her verbally or on sticky notes on the whiteboard (or both). Spotlight could also include the student sharing a story or some interesting facts about him or herself.
#7 Circle Share
This doesn’t have to be done in a circle. You can have kids stand up or sit down or move to the other side of the room. Basically, you have a category like “I’m the youngest kid in my family.” Everyone for whom this is true stands up or moves.
One of our counselors read The Energy Bus aloud to his teenage campers this summer. Do you have a favorite, inspirational book? Even older kids like being read aloud to, so pick something that will inspire them and read to them for 5-10 minutes each day (or have them read it)! One of my personal favorites is Wonder, but pick what appeals to you! A lot of Chicken Soup for the Soul stories are good and can provide a great basis for a meaningful discussion. Reading a story or book together can really bring your class together.
#9 The “Cake Hour”
If you only do one thing, PLEASE try this! I learned about this after talking with Jessica Alexander about her book, The Danish Way of Parenting. Danish kids learn empathy in school because teachers prioritize connection time each week. If food is included, I promise kids will look forward to and benefit from this time! Maybe think up a weekly Question for Connection to use. And maybe you don’t have an hour. That’s okay. How about setting aside just 15 or 20 minutes?
Okay, I take back what I said in #9. Please also do WOWs in your classroom! Take just a minute — literally ONE MINUTE — each day to read positive things kids have written about each other. Appropriate topics include kind things kids have done, hard work kids have done to accomplish something, or anything else positive that’s gone on in your classroom. You can keep a “WOW Box” (or call it a Compliment Box, make it a jar, or whatever!). I promise kids will love writing and hearing WOWs, and it will motivate them to be kind and look for the positive in others! You can also keep an on-going WOW Bulletin Board!
If you try one or more of these activities, I’d love to hear how it goes for you! Send me an email or comment here.
Have a happy, connected school year!
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