Navigating dating and romantic relationships – and figuring out how to decide who to commit to and marry- is one of the biggest decisions of the twenties. In this episode, I’m chatting with my daughter Gretchen, age 29, about her romantic relationships in her twenties, what she’s learned from her own experiences and her observations and discussion with other young adults, and from the book, The Defining Decade (Meg Jay, PhD).

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Previous Tough Twenties Episodes

Ep. 180: [Tough Twenties] Charlotte, Age 25

Ep. 181: [Tough Twenties] Ready for Adulthood


Choose Wisely: 8 Questions to Ponder Before you say “I Do” (post I read from in this episode)

Think hard about who you marry. It’s the most important decision you will ever make.”
David Brooks, Commencement Speech

“My strong advice is to obsess less about your career and to think a lot more about marriage. Please respect the truism that if you have a great career and a crappy marriage you will be unhappy, but if you have a great marriage and a crappy career you will be happy.”
David Brooks, To Be Happy, Marriage Matters More than Career

The Defining Decade, Meg Jay, PhD

Ep. 171: Julie Lythcott-Haims talks about YOUR TURN: How to be an Adult

Ep. 170: Adulting with Emma Liberman

Other Episodes with Gretchen:

Ep. 178: Connecting More Deeply

The Magic Relationship Ratio

[Encore] Ep. 104: Know and Love Yourself AND Your Kids (Talking about Enneagram numbers!)

Ep. 135: Advice & Ideas from Teachers During COVID-19

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